[Dear abby] 230322

Woman Might Double Down on Romance With Gambler

- March 22, 2023 -

DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband and I separated two months after our wedding. Our divorce was final five months ago. After I left him, I started talking to a younger guy I had a lot in common with. However, he has a gambling problem and ended up stealing money from my cash app.

He eventually paid me back and has done everything in his power to get me to trust him again. We are both very attracted to each other. After he repaid the money, he told me he was in a very dark place and felt horrible about doing it.

He says he loves me, and even though I tried fighting it, I love him too. But there are issues -- the trust, the gambling and the age gap. I'm 15 years older. He's still very young, and I know when I was his age, I wanted different things than I want now. I'm worried he'll lose interest in me because we are at different points in our lives.

We aren't exactly labeled a couple but we act like we are. No one but very close friends of mine knows about our situation. Should I cut ties before my heart gets broken? -- TENTATIVE IN WISCONSIN

DEAR TENTATIVE: The age difference may not be a deal-breaker, but the fact that he stole from you should be. How is he dealing with his gambling addiction? Is he still gambling? Has he joined a support group such as Gamblers Anonymous to help him cope with it? Because you divorced after only two months of marriage -- and now this -- there may be something wrong with your "manpicker." Before you make any more big decisions about men, I suggest that you talk to a psychologist about why you seem to be rushing in and out of relationships.

 

 

double down on : 고집하다, 포기하지 않다

in and out : 들락날락

 

이혼한 후에 도박에 중독된 남자와 사랑에 빠진 이야기이다.

 

Wife Discovers Husband Texting Another Woman

- March 22, 2023 -

DEAR ABBY: I just found out my husband and our female friend of 18 months have been texting each other. Allegedly, according to my husband, it's about politics. My husband and I don't share the same political views. He says he has nobody to talk to about politics. I don't understand why he doesn't talk about politics with his male friends.

I find it suspicious that neither my husband nor this "friend" ever mentioned they were communicating with each other. I think he is going outside our marriage seeking validation from another woman. When I said it, he called me crazy, immature and insanely jealous. I'm not.

I think he's endangering our marriage because things can start innocently, and he's seeking something I can't give him. He knew my political affiliation before we married. Our marriage barely survived the last presidential election. Now this. Can I have some advice, please? -- UNEASY IN FLORIDA

DEAR UNEASY: You're not crazy, immature or jealous. You are a wife who is worried that her marriage is in jeopardy. If the three of you socialize together and the subject of politics comes up, engage with them diplomatically without allowing the conversation to degenerate into an argument. And suggest to your husband privately that since the texts are "only political" in nature, you would like to be able to look at them occasionally.

 

allegedly : 전해지는 바에 의하면

affiliation : 소속, 제휴, 가맹

 

자신의 친구와 남편이 서로 문자를 보내는 것을 발견했는데 남편은 정치적인 이야기를 위해서라고 말했다.

글쓴이는 남편과 정치적인 견해가 크게 다르다는 것을 결혼 전에도 알고 있었고 최근 대통령 선거에서도 크게 다툰 것으로 보인다. 이에 대한 조언을 물어보는 내용이다.