[Dear abby] 230204

One-Night Stand Leads to Awkward Social Situation

DEAR ABBY: During a trip to Las Vegas, I kind of had a one-night stand. I'm in a relationship. I felt bad afterward. Problem is, I started having feelings for this guy, "Leo." We would message back and forth, more on my end than his. I guess you could say I was hung up on him. I have since mended my relationship with my partner.
My issue is, Leo is best friends with my best friend's husband. When he visits, I am excluded, which means I can't hang out with her. I tell her we are all adults, we are not in high school and can be in the same room with each other. It's not fair to me. Are my feelings justified? Any advice? -- FEELING SHUNNED ON THE WEST COAST
DEAR FEELING: This isn't all about your feelings. You stated that you feel you can be in the same room with your best friend, her husband and Leo socially. Hasn't it occurred to you that Leo may not be as open-minded about that fling as you are? Seeing you may make him feel guilty. This may be a case of "what happens in Vegas" not only not staying in Vegas, but also having repercussions. See your best friend when Leo isn't around.

 

We would message back and forth, more on my end than his : 메시지를 주고 받았는데 내가 그보다 더 많이 보냈다.

hang up on : 와의 통화 중에 전화를 갑자기 끊다

Hasn't it occurred to you that Leo may not be as open-minded about that fling as you are? : Leo가 당신만큼 fling에 대해 개방적이지 않을 수 있다는 생각이 들지 않았는가?

fling : 잠깐 동안의 정사

repercussion : (어떤 사건이 초래한, 보통 좋지 못한) 영향

 

라스베가스에서 잠깐 한 남자와 원나잇을 했는데 알고보니 그 남자가 자기 절친의 남편의 절친이어서 같이 만나게 되었다. 그러나 그들이 있을 때 자신을 소외시켜서 왜 그러는지 이해가 안된다는 내용.

 

 

Woman's Wrestles With Anxiety Over Pending Checkup

DEAR ABBY: Last year, my dear hubby went to the doctor for back pain. Within a week he had been diagnosed with incurable cancer. He's in treatment, and we hope he will have a long remission, but it has been a very stressful year filled with health issues.
I am now due for my annual checkup, and I'm extremely anxious about it. I'm no spring chicken. I have some issues (high blood pressure, overweight), and I'm terrified she will tell me something awful is wrong. I have been crying for a week now, and I'm almost to the point of canceling my appointment. How do I overcome this extreme anxiety? -- FEARING THE WORST IN OHIO
DEAR FEARING: You may be having extreme anxiety because with a sick husband, you are living with extreme pressure. Pick up that phone, tell your physician exactly what's going on and ask her to prescribe something to calm your nerves before the appointment. Under no circumstances should you cancel it because you are afraid of what you might hear! If anything is wrong, it's important to nip it in the bud before it progresses.

remission : (병의) 차도

spring chicken : 햇병아리, 풋내기

due for : -할 예정인

to the point of (doing) something : -라고 할 수 있을 정도로

Under no circumstances should you cancel it because you are afraid of what you might hear : 무엇을 들을지 두려워한다는 이유로 취소해서는 안된다. (under no circumstances : 어떠한 일이 있어도 결코.. 아니다)

 

남편이 등이 아파서 병원에 갔는데 치료 불가능한 암이라는 것을 판정받았다. 지금 남편은 차도가 있기를 바라며 치료 중이다. 글쓴이 역시 연례 정기검진을 받아야 하는 상황이고 너무 공포에 떨고 있다. 그녀가 이 극심한 걱정을 어떻게 벗어날 수 있을까?

답변 : 두려우면 의사에게 긴장을 가라앉힐 약을 처방 받고 두렵다는 이유로 취소하지는 말아라.

 

 

Speakerphone Is the New Party Line

DEAR ABBY: I have been on phone calls recently with a married friend when the spouse will suddenly chime in, without my knowing they were listening. There are times when I want a conversation to be private with only one person. What's the polite way to make this happen in a world of speakerphones? -- CONFIDENTIAL IN INDIANA
DEAR CONFIDENTIAL: The way to handle it is to tell the married person you would like to know if someone is within earshot because you want your conversation to be private. And if it happens again, convey sensitive information to that person only face-to-face.

 

chime in : 대화에 끼어들어 맞장구 치다

within earshot : 소리가 들리는 범위에

 

결혼한 친구가 통화를 하는데 자신은 듣고 있는지 모르는 상태에서 배우자가 중간에 맞장구를 치며 끼어든다. 한 명에게만 이야기를 하고 싶은데 어떻게 이 말을 전해야할까.

답변 : 누가 듣고 있는지 미리 알려달라고 요청한다. 그래도 반복된다면 민감한 얘기는 얼굴을 보면서만 이야기하자.